We don’t talk about them. The ones we’ve left behind, the people
who quit. Like the family heirlooms left beside the Oregon Trail by pioneers
who had too many hopes and not enough reality.
Many potential writers have fallen by the wayside when
confronted by the realities. Completion of the manuscript isn't the end of work
or the beginning of success. Success doesn't happen until we clench our jaw,
bend into the wind, and face the facts.
People take to paper and pen, keyboard and computer, and
complete a manuscript. Maybe the story has been festering, growing in their
brains since grade school. The written word. Theirs. All their own. But now
what? What do they do now that they’ve written the book that’ll put their name
on the New York Times bestseller list and a seat beside Oprah?
Now they begin the stages of Quit Now or Gird Your Loins.
The process is familiar, the hope and rejections. Rejections
of grammar, of style, words, characters. Ad nauseam.
The next stage is Denial,
followed closely by its boon companion,
Raging. When Justifying peeks in
and Dejection elbows through the
door, loads of people quit right there. Or commit the monumental error of
vanity press, falling for their honeyed words, “…just another check and you’ll become
a star.”
Those who go on meet up with Dejection also. But it's what
happens afterwards is the key.
Believe in yourself.
Reality is the whack of a baseball bat that most don’t survive. How you greet
this somber, black-caped stranger ends with two different results. Either the
door slams shut and life goes on. Or opens wide and Life Begins.
“Lightbulb!” – Gru, Despicable Me.
Education and knowledge
clarifies the mistakes.
Encouragement from
unknown acquaintances motivates us to continue. To improve.
Role models, helpers.
In the fall of 2010, I met two bloggers who answered an essential requirement
that I did not know I needed. Marcy,
the quiet star that is about to explode into a supernova. And Charity, my pearl
of great price.
Faith. Success is
like running two miles. At first, it is exhilarating. Then something pinches
and reality sets in. You think, “I can’t do this. Maybe I should stop. Rest.
Give up.”
Everyone experiences the same feelings. The questions.
Is this too hard, can I do this, am I good enough?
The ones who snarl, gird their loins, and GROW are the ones who
succeed. They call themselves Writer and I am proud to know them.
Almost sounds like the stages of grief, doesn't it?
ReplyDeleteGreat advice!
ReplyDeleteAh yes. Giving up is so much easier.
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing what it can do for a new writer to hook up with the right people (as you did years ago with Charity and Marcy). We all need role models and mentors. You are now one for others who read this post!
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