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I stumbled into a discussion of the group Fantasy Writers on Facebook. A writer posed a question that garnered over 200 comments.
Here is the question. But remember, read all of it including the points before formulating an opinion:
Ladies! I need your input here since I'm not fond of the idea of physically asking strange women at a bar lol.
If you were forced to get naked, not in a good way, and then told to put clothes back on. What would you put on first and why?
The scene is a man who is to train an unruly and difficult woman in martial arts. She has to be broken mentally so this exercise is designed to break her further by making her realize that she has no control or power over anything, even her own body.
He gave these points:
- This is a training exercise, to "break her further" and watch ‘for any frailties’.
- There is nothing sexual about this training procedure. Nothing.
- She is "also a mother of a child that the state is trying to take away from her. The man is trying to help her so she can prove to the state she is adult and able to care for her child".
- The trainers "role in this book is to define the MC, which is the woman, and to further explain the Order of the Mages".
- The training is "the same way knuckle heads get trained in military boot camp. Sometimes you have to knock heads around make the points clear".
- Shaming her isn’t the goal. "The goal is to break her spirit so that she can receive the training well. So that she can understand. Because she is so stubborn the male (trainer) understands this and knows it has to be done to save her and her child.
- The goal isn't sex and the motive was never sexual in nature.
- The training is voluntary, requested by the woman
I took it as a training exercise to break the MC's inhibitions and school her to *listen* to the trainer, just like a bootcamp.
Other writers went a whole nuther way. They were greatly offended. It was sexual, it was demeaning, it was rape. How could the author "...possibly understand how terrible it was since he wasn't a woman...."
Insert my *confused face* here.
I found the different views fascinating. Even with the author's explanations in the comments, still people expressed their disgust to what they determined was sexual and demeaning in nature.